I will tell you a story my going bald too young friend. But promise me you keep it a secret! It’s a true story! Goes after the video.
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Going bald too young reality
I was 22 and already almost completely bald. It was a winter of 2003. Life was pretty hard. On top of it, it was a very cold winter back in Eastern European capital of Slovakia – Bratislava. Like I said before, I lost a family member. Very important family member. I moved back from San Francisco, where I planed to stay another year after finding out about my loss. And as soon as I got home, the tough reality set in. Dark, cold, short winter days magnified the pressures of life.
Boy, I can tell you, these were the hardest times of my life without a doubt. I didn’t have place to live, I had to finish one more tough year of college, all my money was gone, and on top of it, I was getting bald. And I hated that the most. Common! Hair! I am only 22! What’s up with this? I would scream in front of the mirror.
Going bald too young mindset switch
In the middle of my depressing Eastern European November, I had an epiphany. Things got so hard. I was lying on the sofa of my brothers apartment staring into the wall and thinking all the negative thoughts there are. TV was on on some Austrian Chanel. I wasn’t watching it, I just needed some noise in the background. Suddenly, I heard this famous song from Rocky 3 movie. And I started really listening to it. Yes Rocky movie was on.
Suddenly my mood improoved. My thoughts became positive. I know, I know, it sounds very cheesy. But it is truth. And I decided than and there, that I am going to fight like hell to get through all my problems.
I didn’t watch the Rocky movie. I have seen it before. I got up immediately from the sofa and cut my hair short. I put running shoes on, jacked and got out of the apartment to the cold November evening in the city. While I run outside for an hour, the Eye of a tiger song still in my ears, I made a plan in my mind. And I decided there and than, that my bald head is not going to hold me back! I was going to use it to my advantage.
Going bald too young new reality
I started to find a meaning and some kind of joy in a wild roller coaster of my daily life. I really started succeeding in dealing with my crises, I achieved best physical fitness in my life, I found my new direction. What was it? To finish my school, deal with all the crises I had to deal with that time and in a perfect health eventually rise my middle finger and go back to US. No, not because I didn’t like my birth country Slovakia. Not at all. I am still very proud that I am from there. I am still proud Slovakian. All I wanted to do is to start over, fresh and intensivelly. And what is the best place for that? I will answer that question for you: CALIFORNIA!!!
This gave me a sense of direction and purpose in this part of my life. And at the same time, my confidence grew and grew everyday. I got incredibly confident in myself and my abilities. Almost to the unhealthy levells. I will write another article about that some other time 🙂
Going bald too young sweet reminders
I had a few of them. But, I will share the one I valued the most that time. I was 22, and of course I was interested in girls. Well, would you thing that my bald head was an obstacle to meet attractive girls? Not at all.
Between all my problems I had to face and business of life that time, I still managed to go out, do some skiing and have some fun. On one skiing New Years trip to Slovakian mountains we met pretty fun group of very attractive young people. Guess who was the only bald guy there? Yes, it was me. Did that bother me? Not anymore!!!
There were guys, my buddies in good shape an bunch of very attractive girls. One of them a recent miss Slovakia runner up and another great looking girl we were all interested in! Well guess who they both ended up interested in. Yes, the only bald guy in the group. I din’t have to do much. They made the move. They showed their attraction to me. I am not a womanizer or anything like that. Long story short, I ended up having a date or 2 with one of them. We discovered that we were not a great fit, I was busy, living out of the suitcase in my brothers apartment, scraping some money to survive and so on. There was not time for me to pursue any serious relationships.
Another bragging moment!
But the point is, that my bald head didn’t matter! These two most attractive women in our big group of guys were interested in the only bald guy there. Why? I already mentioned that before. You actions create consequences, your overcomed obstacles, your physical fitness, your known direction and few more things create the amazing and attractive thing everybody can possess: intelligent CONFIDENCE!
What made all the difference? Yes, I was in great shape, but so were the other guys. I wasn’t stupid, but so weren’t the other guys. Was I fun to be around? Yes! But so were the other guys! But I had something the other guys seemed to be lacking. I had incredible CONFIDENCE. And people tend to gravitate to it. It’s very attractive to other people. Of course it needs to be an intelligent confidence.
Now my going bald too young friend, I wanted to prove a point to you, that there is a hope. Going bald too young is hard. It is a very hard thing to go throug. But it is not a death sentence to your love and social life. Quite opposite opposite is truth. It can be a huge advantage. All those things I mentioned above are learnable traits. Some of them take a lot of work. But everything that’s valuable in life does. I urge you to lift your head up my 17 or 16 or 23 year old early balding friend. Get inspired! And most importantly, get to work! Great days lie ahead of you!
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